Okay, I’ll admit, I’ve been dumped. More than once. More than I’d like to admit, actually. Recently, even. And, while it hurt quite a bit each time, I have to say that I have grown from the experiences. So, having just been dumped again, here are some things I learned when she dumped me.
#1: It takes two.
Often with the pain and heartbreak of a break up, it is easy to blame the other person for your misery. But the truth is that if the relationship was no longer working, you were part of the problem. Evaluate what went on so that you can apply the lessons to your next relationship.
#2: Give women their personal space.
Women like to cuddle and snuggle. They may seem to always be around. But they need their personal space too. Men have a tendency to be possessive. We want to keep tabs on where they’re going and what they’re doing there. If any woman has ever cheated on you, this instinct becomes stronger. But, trust is a key component in a relationship. When you invade her personal space, you send the message that you don’t trust your girlfriend. This can easily lead to the end of the relationship.
#3: You get stronger over time.
When you wake up in the morning and the hurt feels so real, you may believe that you will never get over the break up. But the truth is that not only does time heal all pain, but you will emerge from the break up a stronger person. As philosopher Frederick Nietzsche said, “that which doesn’t kill me only makes me stronger.”
#4: It’s okay if it wasn’t meant to be.
Coming to accept that a relationship wasn’t meant to be is a key factor in healing. If you had started projecting your relationship into the future — considering marriage, thinking about children — and then the woman you were with broke everything off, consider it a blessing. It is better to end a relationship that wasn’t meant to be earlier rather than later.
#5: Good things don’t happen unless you make them happen.
Finally, the last lesson I want to share with you is that you can’t control what happened, but you can control how you react to what happened. If you want good things to happen in the future, you have to make them happen.
That means getting back on the horse. Go out, meet new women. Have some fun. Eventually, you will find another relationship. And, if you have followed the advice in this article about things I learned when she dumped me, the relationship will be even better and stronger than the last one.
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