How to survive an affair

Welcome to the “how to survive an affair” section of our site. Please know that you are not alone in your situation.

If you are suffering through the aftermath of discovering your spouse has had an affair, chances are some of the following are true:

  • you’re a woman between the ages of 35 and 54,
  • this is your first marriage,
  • you’ve been married more than 5 years,
  • you have children together, and
  • you are still married to your husband and want your marriage to survive this crisis.

The good news: it can —

Even if your husband is defensive and acts trapped when you ask him about his infidelity…

Even if you’re afraid he’s still lying to you…

Even if you can’t stop picturing him with her…

And, even if she still wants him.

Counseling is usually the first step, but it’s not for everyone. For one thing, it’s expensive. For another, it might be difficult to get your husband to go with you. Many people resist the idea of seeking help from someone who, at least initially, is a stranger and might be judgemental. Maybe you even do this yourself.

Or maybe you’ve already tried counseling, but had to stop for some reason. Or maybe you’re still going for sessions, but still feel like you need some extra guidance — like a program with homework or a workbook to help you both process your thoughts, and communicate, and find your way back to each other.

I urge you to click the link below, and from there click the links to read our program reviews. You’ll discover that someone understands what you’re going through right now, and that you’re not alone. The lessons will help you, plus you’ll learn about the special techniques hundreds of other couples have used to survive infidelity and move forward with a happy, healthy marriage.